I'm not entirely sure whether it's because it's a rainy day or my Aunt Josie wrote me back.
The tangible aspect of objects is incredible, it's unequivocally incredible HOW MUCH a physical letter can mean compared to an e-mail or even a phone call.
I am so much more than my hours in front of screens and self-pictures.
Believe it or not, you are too.
That's why these letters are so precious. It's a piece of someone else, that was literally given to me, to keep forever.
There's this movie Jim Carey (and Kate Winslet) star in, called, "Eternal Sunshine of an Absent Mind." It's sort of an artistic film for him to be in, but I liked it. It's about a couple, who break up and decide to have the other one erased from their mind, it's a sad concept. This movie was long enough ago (2004)that the couple had to turn in keep-sakes from the relationship. Not only did they have PRINTED photographs, but notes, letters and DRAWINGS... so much more than that old box of t-shirts and boxers. As an artist and a writer, I have many self-produced items that I HAUL around in each move because it reminds me of my personal history. I'm not referring to events per say but more my growth as a person. It's more VISIBLE in my own journaling, drawings, even high school papers than it is in ALL my computer content COMBINED.
| Yes, I feel like a hipster-robot combination. |
Beloved books sold like pirated goods: cheap, degraded, and mass produced to the point of forgetting what it all was about. I may love the movies even, but I still FORGET what I loved about the books.
Words are a precious thing that we can save, REPEAT, and write. Words will never lose their meanings simply because someone put them on another sheet of paper. It's the reason tattoos are more often quotes rather than pictures these days. People are realizing that quotes are personal to all, while pictures are only personal to some. For instance, if you come across a picture of say, this lady here:
WHO is that?
Right?
Versus hearing this quote:
"I want to TASTE and GLORY in each day,
and never be afraid to EXPERIENCE pain;
and never shut myself up in a numb core of non-feeling,
or stop QUESTIONING and CRITICIZING life and take the easy way out.
To LEARN and THINK:
to THINK and LIVE;
to LIVE and LEARN:
this always, with new insight, new understanding, and new love.”
This is Sylvia Plath.
This is the woman who seemed so HAPPY, so normal on the outside, yet stuck her head in her oven with her children STILL in the house.
Words can tell us everything IF we listen.
Have you ever heard the biblical term, "Brother's keeper"? If you haven't it basically refers to the concept of taking care of someone and caring for them so DEEPLY, even though it is not your responsibility. It's burden of choice.
This Valentine's Day, I encourage you to send positive thoughts to your "brothers" whether that be a classmate, or the cat lady next door, we ALL have felt alone.
And what if YOU are alone? Well, from someone who knows THAT feeling, true happiness comes from within.
No one can make you feel miserable unless YOU let them.
No one can tell you that you're wrong.
You can choose to be happy, to be right, to be YOU.
If you are waiting for that special someone to come along and make everything better, it's not going to happen. When your happiness depends on the presence of an individual, you are not truly happy.
On that note,
If you're looking for a non-chick-flick romance story, you can find Eternal Sunshine of an Absent Mind on Netflix.
If you do like the sappy stuff, any Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan combination will make you content: Sleepless in Seattle or You've Got Mail.


I think the digital vs tactile writing ideal that you posed initially is a bit ironic, considering the course that engendered this blog, haha. However, I absolutely agree with you. When we come to die, will our grandchildren search through the files in an external hard drive instead of sifting through items in a box? As much as I love all of the benefits that have come from technology, I fear that our society is too-quickly dehumanizing the human experience.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I published this (on accident, who knows how) before I was finished... it's good to show you what my rough draft looks like... haha, I'll probably edit this still, at least the formatting. Thanks for the comments Kyle, really. Keep them coming because it helps me think. The way people interact with others, rarely having personal interaction is just foreshadowing what is to come. One day we'll all just be monitors. It's really sad and yet we buy into it. No one is forced to interact anymore, if one wants to send an e-mail, or place all orders online, it's completely possible to be a hermit, and not only that, it's socially acceptable. Individuals I know prefer to live vicariously through celebrities (or even me, believe it or not) rather than finding their own way in life. I am among many who use technology simply because it's easier or more convenient for school or work but then it branched into my social life. I'm still resist the want of deleting my Facebook everyday because I feel I over-share just by posting a few pictures or a status every now and then. I was raised to live a private life and leave people wondering who I really am. My friends are the exact opposite, they throw everything out in the open and yet everyone is okay with it. Personally, I would rather get to know someone face to face rather than through Instagrams of their every meal or tweets of when they are going to the bathroom. Maybe I am the last of a generation that has been able to preserve being old fashioned when others have modified more. For the record, all these statements make me feel Amish but this affects everything from dating to education. Yes, there are humans behind most computers, behind most internet posts, but we're all still strangers. Where's the love for humanity?
ReplyDeleteFreud would say that your sub-conscious brain MADE you publish it. It's just basic psychology that, as humans, we NEED person-to-person interaction. Emotional connection is one of the most important aspects of mental and emotional health and I think the reason society is becoming so impersonal is because people are beginning to connect more with their computer/TV screens or some celebrity they have never met. I think everything happens in cycles. We used to live in large cities/communities (pre-1700) and then we moved out of the cities with just our family (1700-1900), then we moved closer together again (1900-1990), and with the advent of the internet we are beginning to move away again (this time by just not leaving the house, versus physical distance.) I think we will eventually cycle away from the computer/tv to interact more, but it may be awhile.
ReplyDeleteFreud would also attribute it to unresolved issues and then psychoanalyse me. I agree with you that we need human interaction, but I think society's changed as a whole and we're no longer "social people" we're the "isolated person." Adler summed the correlation between health and social interaction that you're talking about in "Individual Psychology," he basically said that "Since true happiness is inseparable from the feeling of giving, it is clear that a social person is much closer to happiness than the isolated person striving for superiority." Online, people are who they want to be, why would they give that up? The whole point of social interaction is to gain the benefit/emotion of belonging that one does in a community and the internet is the largest social community known to man. Sure people have physical needs and desires but those even have become a casual thing, look at the high divorce rate or Craigslist. The individual has trust issues, they don't want to "need" others, and something drastic will have to happen before society realizes that we do need one another. Especially when this need for others is no longer fostered in children...why share when you can have your own in our materialistic society? The individual isn't encouraged to reach out to others for what they need, but only for the needs of others. The average American person has almost everything they want, nothing they need, and yet find a hobby out of social activism in other countries to fulfill that yearning for something more. Until we are the needy, nothing will change.
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Cari i absolutely love this blog post. I enjoyed reading it. I can relate to it as well which is whuy i enjoyed it so much. I like how you state in the beginning of the post how you're unsure of what will be left behind of the generation. As for the letters i can relate perfectly. I have tons of letters from when i was growing up. So i know wjat it's like to feel like you can keep that little piece of somebody forever.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment Francine, I'm glad you could relate. Keep the letters, I think people will eventually stop writing all together and just type.
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